Has Your Addict Partner Truly "Forgotten" His Past Discretions OR is He "Gaslighting" You?
In this episode, Mark and Steve take on a PBSE listener's question about her husband's "claim of not being able to remember the details of his previous disclosures to her. Several months after he finally came clean and told her "everything," he backtracked and denied ever disclosing those things. Here's her description of the situation— Since then, he has said he doesn’t remember having these conversations and confessing these things. After a few weeks of feeling crazy I searched my text messages and showed him detailed texts that took place over many weeks detailing these exact disclosures. He explains what his behavior was and what would trigger him to do it. He claims he was weak and his mind told him that’s what he needed at the time. After seeing these many texts he became frustrated and said he has no clue why he admitted to such betrayals and that they [never happened]. Have either of you experienced a client who admitted things “just so they never had to come back later if they remembered it and say they lied” or have forgotten part of their disclosure early on? I feel he has blocked this part of the betrayal out in order yo block some guilt or that he is simply lying now because he has shame for those specific acts. Any advice?
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Learn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services If you are the spouse of an addict, it is CRITICAL that you be supported in the FACT that his addiction is NOT your fault! Here's an article to help—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/his-porn-addiction-not-your-fault Here's an article looking at how addicts can "gaslight" their partners—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/is-a-porn-addict-gaslighting-you