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Is it "OK" to "Offend" Your Partner?

In this episode, Mark and Steve address some very poignant questions submitted by a listener: "What do you do when the proof is in the pudding that your partner is a sexual addict but they refuse to acknowledge it?I asked him for a separation at the beginning of Dec hoping that would shake him up a bit … He has agreed to couples counseling but is "offended" at my suggestion that he has a sex addiction. There have been many discoveries over our 17 years. Is there a way to help him see or are we a lost cause?" - We have NO control over (and must surrender) another's feelings, even our partner's. - We tell the truth at any cost! - The focus in true Intimacy is on Authenticity, NOT on preserving/protecting/enabling unacceptable behaviors. - LOVE cannot be LOVE if it is robbed of truth! - FEAR can derail authenticity. - We CAN help a spouse "see" the reality of their addiction, BUT we cannot force them to recognize it. We can be consistent and bold with boundaries and consequences. We can "hold up a mirror." And, we can love him or her enough to let them be uncomfortable. - How to use "outside voices" and "other messengers" to help an addict spouse come to a place of vulnerability, acceptance and accountability.

Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension Counseling

Learn more about Mark Kastleman at: Reclaim Counseling Services Here's a great article on the "Brain Science" behind porn and sex addiction— Here's an article about healing Betrayal Trauma— Want to learn more about HOW to break free from porn?— Wondering if your marriage can survive porn and sex addiction? This article will give you some hope—

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