How do I Stop Comparing Myself to Porn and His Sexual Fantasies?
In Episode 177, Mark and Steve address a very heart-felt question sent in by a PBSE listener— "My partner recently came clean to me about...
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mbkastleman
- May 23
- 2 min
If “Sex is Optional,” How can a Couple Possibly Stay Connected?!
In this episode Mark and Steve address a super common question—if "sex is optional" in a relationship, then how can a couple possibly...
mbkastleman
- May 16
- 1 min
How Can We Avoid the Traps and Pitfalls of Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing?
Episode 175 finds Steve and his wife on vacation on the island of Hilo in Hawaii. Hilo is the site of an actual "active" volcano. While...
mbkastleman
- May 9
- 2 min
What Keeps us Stuck in Addiction and What Does “Real” Recovery Look Like?
The partners of sex/porn addicts can find it difficult or near impossible to discern whether or not their partner is still "stuck in...
mbkastleman
- May 2
- 2 min
What Happens When we “Weaponize” What Could be “Healthy Boundaries”?
Healthy Boundaries are CRITICAL to our individual happiness and authenticity—AND—to our connection as a couple. But when we're not...
mbkastleman
- Apr 25
- 2 min
“Normal Human Attraction” vs. “Toxic/Betraying Lust”?
In Episode 172, Mark and Steve tackle a topic that is extremely difficult, triggering and traumatizing for the partners of porn/sex...
mbkastleman
- Apr 18
- 2 min
What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in...
mbkastleman
- Apr 18
- 2 min
What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in...
mbkastleman
- Apr 11
- 1 min
Is There a Place for Sexual Boundaries in Your Coupleship?
Once an addict starts into recovery and his partner begins her journey of healing betrayal trauma, a couple should immediately look at...
mbkastleman
- Apr 4
- 2 min
As a Partner in Betrayal Trauma, I Feel Resentment Toward my Addict Partner. How do I Manage this?!
In episode 169, Mark and Steve address a very raw and real scenario and question from the partner of a porn/sex addict. As a partner...
mbkastleman
- Mar 28
- 2 min
How a lifetime of “Communication Trauma” can prevent “Healthy Connection” in the Here and Now.
We have all suffered from "communication trauma" in our life experiences! This can too easily get in the way and/or sabotage healthy...
mbkastleman
- Mar 21
- 1 min
The “Fallacy of Fairness”—Why I Cannot Stand Up For Myself with my Partner.
In this episode, Mark & Steve address a PBSE listener's question about WHY she has trouble standing her ground, having a voice, speaking...
mbkastleman
- Mar 14
- 1 min
W/hat Does a Formal, Full “Disclosure” Look Like?
In this episode, Mark and Steve review what is an often mismanaged or overlooked “critical” part of porn/sex addiction recovery and...
mbkastleman
- Mar 8
- 1 min
Copy of Having Trouble with “Couples Check-ins”? Give this a Shot.
What is a "Couples Check-in" and WHY is it so ESSENTIAL to your relationship success? What are the BARRIERS to the Couples Check-in? How...
mbkastleman
- Feb 28
- 2 min
Regarding boundaries & consequences in recovery & healing, what is “my side of the street" vs "his"?
In this episode, Mark and Steve address what can often be a confusing topic for couples—when it comes to recovery, healing, boundaries...
mbkastleman
- Feb 21
- 1 min
Is all this “Recovery & Healing Crap” really Worth it? Hope for Couples.
Recovery from Porn/Sex Addiction and healing from Betrayal Trauma are HUGE commitments, take a long time and are HARD work. It can be...
mbkastleman
- Feb 14
- 1 min
Stop Focusing on your "Addiction Symptoms” and Get to your Core Issues!
Too often, those struggling with porn/sex addiction focus primarily on their outward addiction behaviors--the "symptoms" of addiction....
mbkastleman
- Feb 7
- 2 min
Is there any “Good” to be Learned from Sex Addiction Behaviors and Betrayal Trauma?
In this episode, Mark & Steve respond to a painful situation sent in by a PBSE listener. Her spouse was caught in an affair, which...
mbkastleman
- Jan 31
- 2 min
My Partner Slips with Porn & I go Online to See What He saw! How do I Stop this Painful Habit?
In this episode, Mark & Steve address a very common "painful" behavior that the partners of porn addicts can often engage in. A PBSE...
mbkastleman
- Jan 24
- 2 min
If I Don’t Get Angry when my Partner Slips/Relapses, He's Complacent! How Do I Find a balance?
A PBSE listener describes a situation that many partners of addicts face. Here's how she describes it. See if you can relate— My partner...
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